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When she comes to America, your fiancé
will probably enroll in English classes at the local adult
school. If there are any other Russian-speaking women
there, they will become fast friends.
How the Club Forms:
You will get calls from American men you don’t know, who
have heard through friends of friends that you have a
Russian fiancé or wife, and they are in the process of
looking or bringing over a fiancé from Russia. When their
fiancés arrive in America, they will frequently become
intimate with your fiancé.
Friends of yours, hearing that you have a Russian fiancé,
will give your phone number to other Russian people that
they have met.
Your fiancé will go to public places where she may
overhear Russian being spoken. While she would never do
this in her country, she may speak up and say hello to
them because they share a common language in a strange
land.
This eclectic group becomes an informal Emigrant’s Club.
Your fiancé will grab onto these strangers like a
drowning sailor to a floating life buoy. This Emigrant’s
Club will be one of her survival tools.
She will talk to them to hear the comfort of Russian words
being spoken. While everything around her seems strange to
her, she will have things explained to her in a way that
she understands.
The Emigrant's Club Is Another Tool To Making Her Feel
Comfortable Here:
I encourage you to help her develop her Emigrant’s Club,
as this will make it easier for her adjust to her new life
and will reduce the Culture Shock she is experiencing.
Even though you are patient and explain everything to her
in the best way you can, she will trust and understand the
members of her Emigrant’s Club in a way you will not
understand.
They are explaining America to her through Russian eyes
– much as I am trying to explain Russia and Russian
women to you through American eyes.
Helping her get through these rough spots will be the
positive side of the Emigrant’s Club. However, there are
negative sides as well.
She will compare you and your actions, assets, income,
job, and life style with her Russian friends and their
husbands. These Russian women exchange experiences with
each other in details that might embarrass you.
If you are miserly, they will know. If you make less money
than her friend’s husbands, they will know. If you come
up a little short in the marriage bed, they will know.
The intimate details of your life will be paraded through
conversations traveling through the grapevine at mach
speed. If you are lacking, it will become readily apparent
to your fiancé in a very short period of time.
Telephone, Telegraph, Tell A Russian Woman: The Three
Fastest Modes of Communication:
Personally, I just keep my mouth shut. I don’t say
anything that I don’t want someone else to hear, because
they will.
They share everything.
My wife took her girlfriend to the jewelry store where we
bought our wedding rings and where I have purchased some
jewelry for her for special occasions.
One time, my wife and I had a big argument. When my wife
went to the jewelry store, the man at the jewelry store
knew about it from her friend.
So, a word to the wise, I wouldn’t say or do anything
that you don’t want the world to know about, because
they will.
There are three modern forms of rapid communication:
Telegraph, Telephone, and Tell a Russian Woman.
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