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But
today, I did something different.
When the
reporter asked me if men and women using Russian dating
sites were desperate, I simply answered: “Yes, they
are!!!”
The
reporter was dumb founded. I could hear her struggling to
come up with something, mumbling and rumbling, and I
decided to help her out, “Of course they ARE desperate!
If a person wasn’t desperate, and could just find the
perfect partner next door, why would they go through all
the hurdles of meeting someone from the other end of the
world?”
This idea
seemed to make the reporter think, and she was carefully
listening to what I was saying.
I
continued, “I can tell you I was certainly desperate
when I started to look for somebody abroad. I really
wanted to get married and I could not find a suitable guy
at home for many years. This is why I started to look
elsewhere. If I had not struggled for so long to find
somebody at home, I would never start
looking abroad! This is what most people do: they are
lonely, they want to meet somebody, and they start looking
for this somebody at home. They meet some people through
their mutual acquaintances and friends, and they still
cannot find the right person for them. Then they go to
dating services and look there, or try to meet somebody
via Internet. If this also doesn’t work out, they may
come across a Russian dating site and try to talk to
people there. This is how it happens. No one wakes up in
the morning and decides all of a sudden, “OK, I know: I
am going to marry a Russian woman!” They first seek
somebody closer to home and when they cannot find what
they are looking for, they may come to the idea of
broadening their search and looking elsewhere. So, yes, of
course they are desperate - desperate to find the RIGHT
PERSON!”
The
reporter was silent for a minute, and then she said,
“Well, it makes sense.”
It sure
does!
Look back
at your own situation, would you go and look for somebody
abroad if you could just find the perfect partner within 5
miles from your home? Surely not!
I would
not do it either!
NO ONE
WOULD. This would be just crazy.
So, yes,
men and women using our services ARE desperate. But this
is not all: they are not just desperate, they are desperate
enough. And this distinction makes all the
difference.
What do I
mean?
Let me
explain: when I said men and women using our service are
desperate, I did not mean they are desperate to the point
they would accept anybody. Of course not!
You would
not accept just anybody and I would not, and I can assure
you that 25,000 members of Elena’s Models would not do
it either. We are looking for somebody but
we are NOT looking for anybody.
Men and
women using our service, they are desperate to find THE
RIGHT PERSON; this is why they decided on
such an unusual way of meeting a life partner. The other
word for that would be "industrious". When you
try to find a job and you cannot find one to your liking,
some people may just settle for meager jobs (very few).
Others may accept a bad job but keep looking for a better
one. Still others will keep looking for the good job
without compromise.
People
who accepted a meager job would not be
"desperate" in common sense - they may be even
considered successful by society as they fit the social
stereotype of stability of having a secure employment.
Those are the people who would not join our service, as
it's too much hassle for them. The second and especially
the third type of people are our clients. They are desperate
enough to keep searching for that perfect partner
they cannot find closer to home.
Of course I could get married in Russia and I had marriage
offers from Russian guys, but they were not the right guys
for me. So I decided to broaden my search and look besides
the borders. I did it because I was desperate to find the
right partner for me and I did not want to settle for
less. When I was looking for somebody abroad, it was the
same: I would not jump on anybody who offered me marriage
- I met several foreign men and they weren't what I
wanted, or there was no chemistry, and that was all. But I
was desperate enough to KEEP SEARCHING.
People
who are just "desperate", they sit at home doing
nothing or settle for less. They don't want to go through
hurdles of an international relationship. They decide, to
hell with marriage/women/men and just go through their
usual routines. One must be really strong to pull it off.
The key is to be “desperate enough”.
This is what keeps you going and striving for the better
in life.
So, my
question is: Are you desperate enough?
Are you
desperate enough to MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE?
ABOUT
THE AUTHOR: Elena Petrova is the owner of the dating
agency Elena’s Models www.elenasmodels.com
and the author of the popular e-book “How
To Find And Marry A Girl Like Me”, where you can
find advice on all topics regarding dating, courting and
marrying Your Dream Woman from Russia.
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